What is UpToYou?
“UpToYou is a Foundation and therefore, a communitiy-serving non-for-profit organization”
UpToYou is a community-serving non-for-profit Foundation, which works to improve education through the study and dissemination of emotional education understood in an integrating way, that is, for personal growth. It is an educational option which understands that the key to education is found in interpersonal relationships rather than in acquiring some skills or techniques, which also have their place. This interpersonal encounter happens at an emotional level, as emotions, far from just being a reaction, are the expression of our way of living and being. The emotional dialogue is a personal dialogue and emotional education should enable and promote that interpersonal encounter.
The origins of UpToYou
“The origin is in a long educational experience, a serious university research and a multicultural formative experience”
After 15 years of educational experience in several schools, a conclusion was reached: the key factor for the educational act and the student/child to prosper is the quality in the relationship between educators and learner. Then, we were presented with the possibility to carry out a research to improve the experience of the interpersonal encounter within
That’s why we decided to create UpToYou, to work on emotions as a way of improving the educational act. UpToYou was born as a registered brand in 2014; it grew on an educational and university level. In 2017 UpToYou became a Foundation belonging to the Pious Schools of Emaus Province, therefore a non-for-profit community-serving organization registered at the Spanish Ministry of Justice, registration number: 000932. On the other hand, UpToYou is also a Line of research at the University of Navarra. These two dimensions of UpToYou, the Foundation and the Line of research are closely related, with a differentiated working field and independent financial structure. Hence, UpToYou relies on two big sponsors: the Pious Schools of Emaus Province and the University of Navarra. On the other hand, we are endorsed by a wide formative experience developed in Mexico, Spain, Cameroon and Brazil.
What UpToYou Foundation does
‘It is up to you’: because “you are the one who says the last word, favouring agency and responsibility”.
The program is called UpToYou, an abbreviation of: “It is up to you”, in other words ‘you decide’. This name was chosen because many times our own emotional situation is lived as the last word and consequently, we feel shaken by the winds of emotions and feelings as if we were a ship with no sail or helm. The program helps one see that we are the ones to say the last word, favouring agency and responsibility. It is not a program that promotes emotional control, but personal growth and development. It teaches self-knowledge, getting to know our own inner dynamisms and how to act on our own life, firstly understanding the person and their situation, favouring the growth of interpersonal relationships. The traffic lights colours were chosen because once we understand our own inner dynamisms, we are able to know which ones should be allowed to flow (green), which ones need to be contextualized (yellow) and which ones need to be reconsidered in new alternatives (red).
But in every emotional relationship there is something good to discover and which should be allowed to grow.
“Personal growth equates to the growth of interpersonal relationships.”
It is our understanding that no person lives in isolation; rather the person is defined by his or her interpersonal relationships and personal growth amounts to the growth of these relationships. Furthermore, we understand emotions as a reflection of a person’s existential situation at a particular moment in time and that the person is unique in that she experiences intimacy. Therefore, we understand that emotional education as integration can serve as a springboard for personal and social growth.
Addressees of the educational intervention
“For children as well as for grandparents, as we all need to grow”
The natural addressees belong to the education sector: within the family and school. It is a program thought for children, teenagers and adults considering the singularities and manners of each age. The key this program focuses on is taking advantage of the emotional situation as a springboard for the global development of a person. .
This approach to emotional education is for children as well as grandparents, as we all need to grow and we can do it from our emotional reality. That is why, the program and its formative activities are also helpful for the adult who can grow in self-knowledge and improve their interpersonal encounters. Because we also know that in emotional education what we do not live, can’t be promoted in others.
Other people who take an interest in UpToYou come from the sector of therapeutic and clinical approaches in psychology, people who assist others and business people worried about their companies being a place for everyone’s growth. Wherever there are two people having an interpersonal relationship, UpToYou has something to say
“Learning to self-manage the emotional situation focusing on one’s own growth through the improvement of interpersonal relationships”
We all need to learn and grow. These dynamisms don not only happen during childhood or youth but they are part of our human nature. That’s why the program aims to offer some tools and activities for children, young people and adults to learn how to self-manage the emotional situation focusing on one’s own growth through the improvement of interpersonal relationships, which also implies the improvement of the educator-learner relationship.
Childhood is a life stage in which there are a series of challenges to meet: growing in trust, autonomy, initiative, collaborative relationships, always in order to favour interpersonal encounter. Let’s say we are learning to be a person.
Youth is a life stage in which the young person meets certain challenges: maturity in decision making, fulfilment and follow-up; maturity in social relationships, within a group of equals as well as the adult world; updating their identity, acquiring an awareness of who they are and what their role and vision in this world is. These three challenges are all met together, as they demand each other.
Adulthood is another life stage with its own challenges: learning to have intimate relationships, channelling all the novelty introduced during adolescence, taking care of children, but specially learning to live the complexity of this world. And at the end of adulthood we learn to discover and teach the essential to the generations following ours. An adequate self-management of emotions focused on growth and not control, will enable the responsible assumption of one’s own existence and therefore having a proactive approach to one’s own life which will favour one’s growth rather than a life enduring one’s self.
“Integration is not the destination, but rather a path to growth”
Growth – Human development
“Growing involves embracing what one is and finding a path to perfection only to be what, somehow, one already is”
“Emotions are extremely cold and logical”
Although it sounds strange, emotions are extremely cold and logical. This is because emotions are essentially effect. Emotions are the “summary” of what has gone before, who and how one lives, and what one wants, does and feels. Thus, emotions are seen as information, even though they are a bit cryptic because they do not tell us anything directly, but rather reveal the confluence of many things…
“The person should be at the basis and everything else should follow”